Forget everything you thought you knew about relationships and how to act with a man. In Sherry Argov's book she gives the greatest advice to women: Be unapologetically yourself and snag the quality man of your dreams.
There are a few things to learn about men.
Men want a woman they can respect. To a man respect and trust is an interchangeable word.
If he respects you he will trust you and therefore have no problem seeing you as someone he wants to be with forever.
So be a bitch to weed out the contenders from the 'pretenders'.
A Bitch = Babe In Total Control of Herself
Exude a 'I can do it myself' attitude.
A bitch has hobbies. She can't be distracted from her work. If you're getting in her way she'll leave you out of her life. She doesn't holler, scream or beg. She packs up her shit and leaves.
She'd rather be staying in a motel and be able to be herself then living in your mansion and being a silent maid for you. She values herself which will make a man value her.
Men also want to see what a woman will bring to the relationship. Do you say things like "I'm broke. I just spent all my money on this purse." He will see you as a liability.
If you say "I am so excited to start my own business." He will take you more seriously. He doesn't want a helpless little girl.
During a fight: She gets up and leaves. Go out for at least two hours
No mothering.
No doting after the little brat.
She takes no disrespect and doesn't want to baby a grown man.
He thinks "That was smooth. She saw it coming and read me like an open book. Hmm... she sure sidestepped that. I guess being a jerk will get me replaced."
When you act emotionally, you feed the fire. IF you let it go or just leave him when he's acting like a turd, he will straighten up if he is a quality man.
The secret of a bitch is she let's him know she is his equal.
She can handle shit like a man.
She doesn't kick her feet, stomp them, or start the waterworks when she's upset.
She acts like you can be replaced.
Hold out for sex. Men will tell you A LOT quickly if he wants to sleep with you. It's all lies, so a quality man will be able to maintain a relationship with you for months with no sex if he's really in it for you.
"Every guy wants sex on the first date. but they PREFER to wait."
Best points to take away from this book:
Have no temper. He will be amazed if you use short- one word- answers.
Instead of 'Stop treating me badly. You're hurting my feelings' and crying,
say "Are you hungry? You sound crabby. Go fill your belly then come back and talk to me."
Leave the house. And be willing to leave the relationship if he treats you like shit.
Men want to know- are you secure? will you fall apart?
Play coy. Make him feel like a king and get him to do everything you want him to do by using body language and short answers.
GUYS ARE JUST AS VULNERABLE AS WOMEN. They just will never admit it.
Quality men don't want to be used just for cash or protection. They want to be valued as men.
A MAN'S FAVORITE WORD IS APPRECIATE. HE WANTS MORE THAN ANYTHING TO FEEL REVERED AND VALUED BY A WOMAN. WHEN SHE'S APPRECIATIVE, IT MOTIVATED HIM TO GIVE HER THE WORLD.
Never be available 100%. Sometimes, a movie night with myself has got to be seen as more valuable than time with him. This will drive him wild. It will be unusual.
IF A GUY IGNORES YOU:
Never call him back.
Cut him off completely.
Develop a hobby
Say "Listen, if i'm taking up your time here, and you are feeling like you'd rather be somewhere else that's cool. There's someone out there for everyone."
-Be seen as a limited addition model
Be a catch.
Have no attitude.
Be opinionated, challenging and mature.
" When you stand up for yourself in a dignified, feminine, and womanly way, you can get anything you want from a man. When you place value on yourself in the right way, so will he. "
If you don't feel enough without a husband, you won't feel enough with a husband.
If you see yourself through a negative lens, you will tell yourself things like " What's wrong with me? All my friends are married except me." Being single doesn't make you less then... any more than marriage is a guarantee for happiness. IF that were the case, half of marriages wouldn't end in divorce.
However, seeing yourself through a positive lens is the best chance at happiness you've got.
Enjoy every day. Live it to the fullest.. Be positive. Love yourself. And screw what anyone else thinks if they don't approve of you. Don't let anyone darken your doorstep Otherwise when you get married you will still be unhappy and feel like you belong in the gutter.
A man desires... craves... and holds out for a strong, spirited woman who know who she is. He doesn't want to feel like he's adopting an orphan or taking in a needy child who apologizes for her need, can't speak her mind, and needs someone else to tell her she's worthy.
